“Can the Ethiopian change his
skin, or the leopard his spots? then may ye do good, that are accustomed to do
evil.” (Jeremiah 13:23)
Why
do we accept what we could change and try to change what we should accept?
In the Scripture in Jeremiah, there is an individual
trying to change his skin color and an animal trying to eliminate his
distinctive markings. In both cases, it was a futile endeavor. But no more
futile than some of the changes you and I try to bring about, while overlooking
the ones that could, and should, be attempted. I have come to believe that one
of the most effective tools in the devil’s bag of tricks is diversion. Picking fruit instead of
digging out roots; clinging to tradition instead of standing on Scripture;
fashioning excuses instead of “fessin’ up”; you know, straining at gnats and
swallowing camels (Matt. 23:24).
I can quickly think of three areas of life where we
often find ourselves holding the wrong end of the stick when it comes to
change, short changed, if you will. See if you agree.
1. We try to
change people instead of ourselves. In the first place, we should all know
by now, people resist being changed, especially by someone they know is dead
set on changing them. And anyone who would allow someone else to change him or
her, without being fully convinced that the change is Biblical (in the case of
a Christian) and reasonable and practical for them personally, will be just as
easily persuaded in another direction. As the old saying goes, “A man convinced
against his will is of the same opinion still.
So instead of trying to wrestle a friend or loved one
into submission to either us or the Lord, why not allow God to bring you and I
into submission to His will for us personally? Make no mistake, He never asks any
of us to condone or accept unrighteousness in anyone; but He does say, “The king’s heart is in the hand of the
LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will” (Pro. 21:1);
and if there is ever going to be a change in anyone’s heart, He will be the
one to do it.
2. We try to
change the Bible instead of our lives. I’m not only speaking of the glut of
translations that testify to the determination to make a Bible more palatable to
all, or more answerable to the explanation of men. I’m talking about things
like women who would rather look for some other passage to refute or even
soften words like “Wives, submit
yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord,” then to simply be
submissive to their husbands. If I’m determined to have my own way and the last
word in our marriage, Ephesians 5:22 is still there. I’ve merely disobeyed it.
I can try to change it or minimize it, or I can work on changing me so that I
want to obey it.
3. We can try to
change the outside instead of the inside. Salvation is an internal
operation that becomes more and more visible on the outside as we allow the
Spirit of God to change us. So before I look in the bathroom mirror, I need to
look in the mirror of God’s Word. C.S. Lewis said, “We’re a soul with a body,
not a body with a soul.” All the outward change in the world will never change
the inside; but oh, what a difference a change on the inside can make to the
outside!
I think I know why we choose some
changes instead of others. It’s easier to try to change someone else instead of
ourselves because we instinctively know we’re really not going to be held
responsible for him or her. And because we know God will hold us accountable
for what we do understand in His Word, we try to obscure what makes us
squeamish. And the “hidden man of the heart” that’s the most beautiful ornament
a woman can wear (1 Pet. 3:4) will require much more time with God than pious
attitude and appearance will take.
Why do we accept what we could (and
should) change, and try to change what we should accept?
Because it’s easier.