“I suppose therefore
that this is good for the present distress…” (1 Cor. 7:26a)
The
situation was not always going to be the way it was then. Paul knew that, but
do we? He was instructing the Corinthian believers on such interpersonal
subjects as celibacy, marriage and divorce, and the servant-master relationship.
During those trying times for the Early Church, when husbands, wives, and
children were being separated and persecuted, it might be better for unmarried
men and women, he suggested, to remain unmarried, something contrary to
accepted Jewish teaching. Staying single, however, would not break any of God’s
perennial laws; therefore, present circumstances could influence present
actions.
As
a matter of fact, to insert cultural practices
of the past into present day dogma is
to repeat the mistakes of the majority of the New Testament Jews. They were so
fixated on the outward ritual of the past that they didn’t recognize the Lamb
of God who stood behind it all, and who now stood before them. I say this
reverently: they couldn’t see the forest for the trees.
For
instance, we trivialize our submission as Christian wives if we gauge it by
such things as the length of our hair, the quietness of our speaking voice, or
the number of children we have produced. Believe me, it reaches much farther and
deeper than that! When I read about the virtuous woman in Proverbs thirty-one,
is God trying to tell me to make my own clothes or make a godly, loving home
for my family? Is it about the wool, and the flax, and the coverings of
tapestry, or the trusting heart of her husband and the earned admiration of her
children?
Again,
shall the early churches’ practice of greeting one another with a “holy kiss”
make me fair game for any man in our congregation? This is where I echo the
words of Paul: “We have no such custom”!
That’s exactly what I’m talking about here: customs. As my husband says,
“Customs are not commands.” And, frankly, I have found it to be the case that
those who focus on the former tend to let the latter slide. You know, “strain
at a gnat and swallow a camel”?
God’s
moral commands are timeless, as we know time. They are binding in any culture.
Customs change, however, and when they do, as long as they don’t impinge upon
God’s laws, they can be good—sometimes better—than what they replace. But, one
way or another, it isn’t the way it was
then; and it wasn’t the way it is now.
And if you and I cannot get hold of this truth, we’ll spend our lives as a
Pharisee or a hypocrite—probably both.