“…and none spake a word unto him: for they saw that his grief was very great.” (Job 2:13)
I’m of the opinion that grief and sorrow are not always lessened by talk. I know this goes against established psychology and grief counseling, and it’s not to say that grief shouldn’t be shared, but only that it doesn’t always have to be verbalized to be borne. I write this not for those enduring grief and heartache, but for those who ache for them. If the individual seeks a sympathetic ear, then by all means, we should give it; but to feel that we must encourage someone to speak or even cry in hopes of making him or her “feel better” or “get over it” sooner, is presumptive, to my way of thinking.
Some grief is too great to be expressed. In the case of Job’s friends, when they did finally speak, they turned out to be “miserable comforters. We sometimes search for words of comfort when there are none. Not because there is no comfort, but because it will not come through words, in this case. Anguish and heartache that cannot be expressed, like “groanings that cannot be uttered,” call for a specialist—the blessed Holy Spirit (Rom. 8:26). It is not for nothing that He is called “the Comforter.”
Not the words that you say, but the love that you show—
From a heart filled with God, and the comfort He bestows